Dating Tip: When to leave the past in the past...
Talking about an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife on a first date is a definite no-no.
Relationship history is a topic that can and should be discussed at appropriate times, especially if you are co-parenting with your ex, but it should not be the main focus while you’re in the beginning stages of getting to know a new partner. Also, be careful not to share too many intimate details- those are things that could possibly stick in your partner’s mind, and needlessly upset them. Do you really want to know about your boyfriend’s favorite sexual position with his ex, or the pet name your girlfriend called her ex? I know I don’t want that kind of unproductive information bouncing around in my head.
If someone talks nonstop about their ex on any date, there is a high possibility that their head and heart is still all wrapped up in that relationship. It’s hard to really get to know someone while you’re still obsessing about someone else.
So, if you feel the need to talk about your past relationship, and work through unresolved feelings and issues, do it with friends, or a therapist, until you make the decision to let it go and move on. Only then will you truly be ready to open up to someone new.
Talking about an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife on a first date is a definite no-no.
Relationship history is a topic that can and should be discussed at appropriate times, especially if you are co-parenting with your ex, but it should not be the main focus while you’re in the beginning stages of getting to know a new partner. Also, be careful not to share too many intimate details- those are things that could possibly stick in your partner’s mind, and needlessly upset them. Do you really want to know about your boyfriend’s favorite sexual position with his ex, or the pet name your girlfriend called her ex? I know I don’t want that kind of unproductive information bouncing around in my head.
If someone talks nonstop about their ex on any date, there is a high possibility that their head and heart is still all wrapped up in that relationship. It’s hard to really get to know someone while you’re still obsessing about someone else.
So, if you feel the need to talk about your past relationship, and work through unresolved feelings and issues, do it with friends, or a therapist, until you make the decision to let it go and move on. Only then will you truly be ready to open up to someone new.
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